Anxiety Management Tips: Rediscover What Used to Make You Feel Good

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We’ve all been there in some shape or form: that feeling of anxiety. It is a familiar feeling for me. I’ve had it on and off through most of my life. When it’s bad, my heart and head feel like they’re fluttering at mach speeds trying to out pace each other. When it’s managed, it’s often been the extra burst of energy that has allowed me to accomplish some pretty cool things. I don’t look like an anxious person, I’m a pretty chill mother and boss, but inside my head, I’ve usually got enough logistics running to help out NASA….

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What We’re Reading: Crucial Conversations

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When you think of crucial conversations, what comes to mind? Is it a certain person, such as a boss or a significant other? Is it a certain topic, like raising your kids or managing finances? We all have certain people who we either struggle to communicate with (think: your teenager), or certain people with whom we often discuss very serious, sensitive subjects (think: your spouse, your business partner, etc.). In addition, we also each have a few topics of conversation that make us uncomfortable or nervous. It might be politics, it might be money, it might be discussions about the…

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Teens and Anxiety

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Everyone experiences anxiety to some degree, and a certain level of anxiety is normal, even helpful. Anxiety works as our body’s warning signal in response to dangerous, stressful or unfamiliar situations. Problematic anxiety happens because your brain thinks there might be danger, even when there is no danger present. For people suffering from this kind of anxiety, the constant worry and tension can leave them feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and feeling like they have no control over their emotions. One of our clients described her anxiety as, “I start thinking about things, and then I freak out because I can’t do…

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Back to School: A Survival Guide

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Yep, it’s August. As the lazy days of summer come to an end, parents and school age children across America are beginning to feel the stress of getting back into the school routine. Early wake-up calls, sports physicals, new clothes, new schedules, packing lunches, signing up for events and (avoiding) the dreaded homeroom parent list, or the worry of paying tuition and getting your child off to college can make any parent feel overwhelmed. It’s no easier on kids who worry about making friends, pressure to be a good student, or possibly leaving home for the first time. “The end…

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Mindfulness

What We’re Reading: Mindfulness – An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World

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Mindfulness--You may have heard your yoga instructor talk about this or a therapist or that friend who is always on the hunt for the next best way to improve his life, but what is it, really? Some have called it the secret to “the kind of peace and happiness that gets into your bones and promotes a deep seated authentic love of life, seeping into everything you do and helping you to cope more skillfully with the worst that life throws at you (p. 2).” But that is not really a definition. It’s more of a statement of outcome. Part...
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What Helps and What Hurts: Providing Support to a Loved One with an Eating Disorder

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Supporting a loved one with an eating disorder can be extremely tricky. You may feel like you are walking on eggshells, trying to determine what is okay or not to say and do. You may not yet have a good understanding of what an eating disorder really is, but the fact that you want to be supportive means you are headed in the right direction. Here are a few steps you can do to really help the recovery process…and things that may be well-intended but end up hurting instead. WHAT HURTS: Food talk. Feelings of guilt in relation to food…

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Pray to God, but row to shore

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I grew up in the 80’s when the decor was a mix between dusty pastels and rustic country. There are many reasons the 80’s were a great decade, but interior design is not on that list. Every morning breakfast was served at the kitchen table which looked out a patio door bordered by all sorts of strange antique kitchen gadgets. Amongst the old serving utensils and egg beaters was a wooden spoon bearing a tiny painted boat and the phrase, “Pray to God, but row to shore.” I looked at that spoon and its message every morning for at least…

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Sucking at Life, part 1

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Recently, I walked into my therapist’s office (yes, therapists have their own therapists), and said, I am sucking at life right now. She laughed, which is her common response to the ridiculous things that often come out of my mouth, and said, ok, tell me about it. We then spent the hour looking at the different areas where I felt I was failing miserably. Truth be told, I wasn’t magically transformed into feeling like a winner by the end of the session, but I did walk away with a better perspective that helped me challenge the idea that I was…

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Sarah Stukas

The price of sleep

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$70.38. That's what it has cost me over the past 30 days. My daughter recently turned three-years-old and has never been a "good sleeper." Oh, we've had a month here and there where everyone gets a solid night of sleep. A solid night of sleep that makes me throw open the curtains in the morning because surely there must be a double rainbow in the sky and birds singing in harmony--that's how great I feel. So, yes, I'll gladly pay $70.38 to recreate that feeling night after night. We've tried nightlights, no nightlights, special pajamas, music, white noise, charts, but...
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